{"id":28811,"date":"2021-08-25T12:52:28","date_gmt":"2021-08-25T11:52:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/?p=28811"},"modified":"2021-08-25T12:52:32","modified_gmt":"2021-08-25T11:52:32","slug":"support-for-grieving-children-and-young-people-due-to-the-pandemic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/blog\/2021\/08\/25\/support-for-grieving-children-and-young-people-due-to-the-pandemic\/","title":{"rendered":"Support for Grieving Children and Young People due to the Pandemic"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>Guest post by childhood bereavement charity <a href=\"https:\/\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/tag\/winstons-wish\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Winston\u2019s Wish<\/a><\/em>; help for the additional children grieving due to the pandemic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">How has the Covid-19 pandemic impacted grieving children and young people?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The Covid-19 pandemic has had a huge impact on children and young people. An estimated 10,450 children and young people have been bereaved of a parent, grandparent or caregiver due to Covid-19 in England and Wales. That\u2019s on top of the estimated 41,000 children and young people who are bereaved of a parent every year in the UK.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"492\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-activities-resized.jpg?resize=800%2C492\" alt=\"Winston's Wish help for grieving children in the pandemic\" class=\"wp-image-28842\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-activities-resized.jpg?w=800&amp;ssl=1 800w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-activities-resized.jpg?resize=300%2C185&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-activities-resized.jpg?resize=768%2C472&amp;ssl=1 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>With lockdowns, school closures, being cut off from support networks and unable to say goodbye&nbsp;to loved ones, the pandemic has also created a unique set of circumstances that has made grieving more complicated for these children.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cMany children and young people have avoided grieving and instead bottled it up, because they simply can\u2019t deal with the painful feelings and emotions while also living through a pandemic,\u201d says Di Stubbs, Winston\u2019s Wish practitioner. \u201cHowever, while you might be able to postpone the intense feelings of grief, you cannot permanently avoid them.\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Difficulties Experienced by Grieving Children<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Deferring their grief in this way can lead to a number of difficulties for children and young people, such as problems at school, mental health issues and more risk-taking&nbsp;behaviours.&nbsp;With support, children and young people can go on to lead full and flourishing lives but they need&nbsp;help&nbsp;from their parent or guardian to explore and express their grief.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Childhood bereavement charity Winston\u2019s Wish has created a number of resources, including activities and conversation starters, to help parents and guardians support their children with their grief, which are available to download here: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.winstonswish.org\/pandemic-grief\">winstonswish.org\/pandemic-grief<\/a> &nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>How has the pandemic complicated grieving for children and young people?<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI know everyone has had a tough year but it has been so hard to support my children as they grieve their dad\u2019s death while they\u2019ve also been away from everything and everyone who would normally be there for them: my mum, his parents, their cousins, teachers, school friends.\u201d&nbsp;Iona*, parent&nbsp;(<em>names changed to protect anonymity<\/em>).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"532\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-teenagers-resized.jpg?resize=800%2C532\" alt=\"Winston's Wish helping young people who are grieving\" class=\"wp-image-28845\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-teenagers-resized.jpg?w=800&amp;ssl=1 800w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-teenagers-resized.jpg?resize=300%2C200&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-teenagers-resized.jpg?resize=768%2C511&amp;ssl=1 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" data-recalc-dims=\"1\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>The Covid-19 pandemic and the response to it has created a unique set of circumstances that has made grieving more complicated for bereaved children and young people:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Separated from those who would usually support them \u2013 friends, teachers, wider family, youth workers&nbsp;<\/li><li>Restrictions on visiting people and on funerals and memorial services means children had less chance to spend time with them or say goodbye<\/li><li>They have been constantly reminded of their bereavement with everyone talking about the pandemic and deaths<\/li><li>They may feel that their bereavement is just one among many and that no one is interested in their story<\/li><li>They may feel angry about things they see as contributing to the death, for example people ignoring lockdown rules, not self-isolating, a lack of ventilators, or resources being diverted away from other illnesses like cancer to Covid-19 patients<\/li><li>Children and young people are dealing with so many changes and disruption \u2013 school closures, cancelled exams, clubs closed, routines changed, parents\u2019 jobs at risk \u2013 that there feels like there has been no space to grieve<\/li><li>With so many children and young people experiencing mental health challenges and many services forced to stop or switch to online support, they may experience difficulties accessing support and resources.&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>How do I know if my child needs support to express their grief?<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A child might not understand that they are struggling with their grief or know how to explain it to an adult, but there are some common signs to look out for:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>You notice changes in their&nbsp;behaviour, for example they become anxious, withdrawn, sad or angry&nbsp;<\/li><li>They struggle to concentrate&nbsp;<\/li><li>They experience problems at school or their marks drop&nbsp;<\/li><li>They don\u2019t want to talk about the person who has died&nbsp;<\/li><li>They have trouble sleeping&nbsp;<\/li><li>They experience physical symptoms, for example unexplained pains, headaches or stomach aches&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>How can I help my child with their grief?<\/strong>&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The death of a family member, especially a parent or sibling, is a devastating situation for any child, but with the right support at the right time they can go on to have a full and flourishing future.&nbsp; Here are some of the ways you can help them:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul><li>Acknowledge what has happened and their grief and loss&nbsp;<\/li><li>Offer simple and clear explanations of what has happened&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/li><li>Talk to them about what may happen next and offer them reassurance about the future&nbsp;<\/li><li>Show them that it\u2019s ok to express their feelings by sharing your emotions&nbsp;<\/li><li>Help them to explore and express their feelings and thoughts&nbsp;<\/li><li>Find ways to remember that person\u2019s life and mark anniversaries, birthdays and special days&nbsp;<\/li><li>If needed, help them find <a href=\"https:\/\/www.winstonswish.org\/supporting-you\/bereavement-support-services\/\">specialist bereavement support<\/a><\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-memory-box-resized.jpg?resize=800%2C533\" alt=\"Help with Grieving from Winston's Wish - a memory box\" class=\"wp-image-28843\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-memory-box-resized.jpg?w=800&amp;ssl=1 800w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-memory-box-resized.jpg?resize=300%2C200&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/pinkoddy.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2021\/08\/Winstons-Wish-memory-box-resized.jpg?resize=768%2C512&amp;ssl=1 768w\" 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noopener\">ask@winstonswish.org<\/a>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Winston&#8217;s Wish: Extra Help for Children Grieving as a Result of the 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