It’s a subject no-one likes to think about, never mind talk about. Yet it comes to us all.
Some of us it comes sooner than others.
Everyone deals with it differently.
Some may even judge others about how they do or don’t cope with it.
People may avoid speaking to you because they don’t know what to say.
Others may say things that you feel are insensitive.
Some people find it hard to get out of bed.
Some people just try to carry on as normal.
Some people keep it bottled inside.
Some people need to talk and talk about it.
Sometimes deaths are easier to deal with than others – the end of a long happy life for example.
Sometimes we feel that we may never come to terms with it.
Other times we feel we are coping so well, that when something happens to remind us, it hits us all over again.
Sometimes we are lucky enough to have a good supportive friend/family network.
Other times it’s those we cared so deeply for, and they cared about us, that we have lost.
It’s important to allow yourself plenty of time to grieve.
When it is your time to go you can make it easier for others by creating many happy memories, & leave behind things that can easily remind them of you – photos, tickets from days out, paintings/artwork made together.
Make sure you make a will – especially if you have children – it’s not just about what happens to your material possessions.
I am sorry for your loss.
I have lost my big brother (he was aged 6), my Mother (she was only 48), 6 grandparents & my husband’s granddad, my (very close) great aunt, a step cousin died of leukemia, a friend died of cancer in her 20s, & had 3 miscarriages.
So if you wish to speak to someone who, may not have the right words, but may have some idea how you may feel then please feel free to get in touch with me. xx